Life is busy.
There is no way around it.
Spending time a lone with your spouse is hard to do... if it has to be perfect.
We seem to have this ideal way of "going on a date" and when it doesn't work out the way we pictured it should, we often just forget about it all together.
I know that as a mom of 3 little kids getting dressed up to go on date hasn't happened in awhile, (a really long while) :) But a date doesn't have to be "perfect". It's not about where we are it's about who is there by our side.
For Josh and myself we have our dates nights every Friday, Josh plays hockey at a arena an hour from our place, so we will usually go out for supper with some friends and then I watch Josh play hockey, we pick up some ice cream and head home. My favourite part of those dates is the driving, 2 whole hours of just the two of us being able to talk with no interruptions. It's a great time to just discuss different things, talk about training our kids, and what some of our goals are for our life. It may not seem "perfect" but it is perfect to me.
And of course we couldn't go on these date nights without our wonderful parents, who take care of our kids for us!
So on that note I thought I would share about how we celebrated Valentines day.
Valentines day Josh was out hauling grain and I was gone helping Josh's sisters get ready for a valentines banquet at their church. It was a busy, but very fun day. Then in the evening Josh came to pick me up (with flowers) :) and we went to hockey. So seeing as we didn't have time do anything out of the ordinary, the next night, after the kids were all in bed, I cut up some strawberries and bananas, melted some chocolate, and Josh and I enjoyed a romantic fondue, along with watching olympic curling. :)
We didn't need to make reservations, or go anywhere. We didn't need to get a babysitter, or spend a lot of money, all we needed was, US and the love that we have for each other.
Don't worry about your dates being "perfect" instead, look for the "little" opportunities in life that come along, maybe it's renting a movie, or baking cookies together, it may even be fruit and melted chocolate. Whatever the case, remember that it's who you're spending time with, not where you are, that matters.
It might take some extra effort, but it's really worth it!
